Many of us are experiencing life according to our current understanding of it. This may be ease, love, gratitude, struggle, confusion or pain. The state in which we find ourselves correlates with the experience and the choices we are currently making.
Our constant thoughts currently dictate how we feel and influence our decisions and response to our current experience. But, what if I tell you that the longer you chose to focus in your negative emotions, the longer your experience will remain? Would you allow your confusion and your pain respond to this knowing? Or, would you allow your desired feeling dictate how you chose to deal with your current experience?
You see, you have a choice. You get to decide the type of experience, life you get to live. In order for this to happen, you must be willing to accept responsibility for your happiness. Focusing on others and the external to influence your happiness, sets you up for disappointment and other painful emotions; because no one knows, uunderstands, feels you better than yourself.
Depending and relying on others to modify their existence, life to meet your expectations and desires, it is not only selfish, but most importantly, it is unrealistic. You are essentially asking everyone in your life to stop living to focus on you. Do you really want to be responsible for everyone’s life?
The only control you have, is over yourself. You control your experience by intentionally and mindfully aligning your thoughts, feelings and behavior according to the life and experience you desire to have. It is your responsibility to decide every minute of your exitance, how you want to feel. Make it your intention to focus on your desired feeling, and push away everything and everyone that it’s not aligned with your desired intention. Deciding how you want to experience life starting today, will allow you to focus your attention and intention to all that supports your ease, love and happiness.
Thank you for loving me as much as you do. I am grateful for all the love, peace and growth I have experienced with you and for being able to love you even when we’re apart. Your peace and happiness is important to me. God knows, I would like to be near you, feel your arms around me, hear your voice; but I understand that’s not possible now. I love you, so go, take care of yourself, find your happy place.
It seems that this is the season for change. You might feel you’re in the eye of the storm right now but I ask you to hang on and not be afraid nor discouraged. What you are going through is making you stronger and changing you. This experience is giving you the opportunity and the courage to work and commit to yourself, to discover your best self. We have to keep walking and pushing through the dark to see and appreciate the light.
Redefine your happy. What you have been used to, no longer works. It doesn’t bring you the peace or the satisfaction, it used to. It is time to figure out what and how you need to change to adapt to your new day, the new, more present you. Yes, it’s freighting, yes, it’s hard, but if you continue doing what it no longer works, it will get harder and more painful. Your true self demands change and it needs change to be ready, able and willing to welcome all you have ever desired but feared you’d never get.
It is time for change, accept it. It is only here to make you better.
I think I might just take myself on a date today.
No, please don’t. The beauty of it: It gives me time to know my thoughts,
To review the ones in my life and enjoy the breeze of the night.
Not worried about what to talk about or what to say,
Simply present, in the beauty of the stray.
I see you all wondering why such a fine specimen as I, dine and wine on my own?
You see, I have lost myself in the face of pain and in the doubt of a mate.
But today my friend, I am being brave.
I have chosen to escape and allow life take me where it may.
A little closer to the desired peace with the guidance of a mirror in my faith.