When we experience sadness, anxiety and or other negative feeling, we tend to coexist in it, and in return negative feelings remain within us for longer periods than we would like them to.
The key to shorten their stay is to allow yourself to fully experience these feelings and identify what is making you feel this way. What happened? What were you thinking, right before these feelings took over?
You see, it’s essential that you not only experience negative feelings but also understand why you’re experiencing them. Being able to identify the why, will allow you to figure out the how to managing them. Sometimes we experience these feelings because we need to change something or do something different. Being aware that these feelings are a result of the need to some kind of change, for me, makes it easier to face and experience them.
Remember life is about experiencing, learning, evolving and moving on. This means that in order for us to learn something at a personal level, we must allow ourselves to experience it. Once we are in the experience, we learn what we like and or dislike about it, opening the door for our evolution. Personal evolution just means that you are aware of experiences you are willing to allow or push away from your life, because you know that they will cause you negative or positive feelings. Evolving also means you adopt new positive habits of behavior and thoughts. Behavior and thoughts that only lead you to your best self. A self that is balanced and confident.
My advice to you would be: Change demands experiencing, learning, evolving and moving on. Don’t deny yourself the beauty of it all, because at the end of it, your best self awaits.
“ If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward”
Martin Luther King Jr.
Sometimes when we feel uncertain about something or someone we flee and or retract for fear of being hurt or not knowing.
Did you know that this uncertainty can be easily fixed? All you have to do is find the courage to ask the tough questions.
You must not let fear of being rejected place you in a tornado of uncertainty. If you do allow it, you will drive yourself crazy; wondering, thinking and creating stories and hypotheticals in your head. There’s nothing worst than you playing mind games on yourself.
If you want to know something, ask it and be ready to accept the answer or no answer. A no answer still an answer you know. When you are brave and seek clarification from others, a nonresponse gives you a no answer, a move on answer, a stop wasting your time answer, a it’s time for something new answer.
You just have to give yourself permission to let go of what you are uncertain about. Free yourself from it and redirect your time and energy on what you’re certain of.
I hope today you laugh until your belly aches and you love to no end. May this year bring you peace, happiness and the courage to throw all doubt in air like you don’t care!!
I pray that you get to fully understand, respect and accept all of you and whom you are. Cheer who you truly can be. Although you are human and have emotions never stop searching nor demanding clarity and direction.
Stop the nonsense and be completely honest with yourself. Forget fear, insecurities because they will always exist. Have the strength to not let their weakness dictate your life and decisions. Just be real and brave. Answer the hard questions: What do you truly want? What does it look like? What will it take to get it? What are your intentions?
Make a defining decision so you don’t continue to drag yourself through a maladaptive cycle. Decide what is best for you and make a commitment to work on yourself and make the necessary changes to achieve the best you.
Love yourself and focus on always knowing where you’re headed.
It seems that this is the season for change. You might feel you’re in the eye of the storm right now but I ask you to hang on and not be afraid nor discouraged. What you are going through is making you stronger and changing you. This experience is giving you the opportunity and the courage to work and commit to yourself, to discover your best self. We have to keep walking and pushing through the dark to see and appreciate the light.
Redefine your happy. What you have been used to, no longer works. It doesn’t bring you the peace or the satisfaction, it used to. It is time to figure out what and how you need to change to adapt to your new day, the new, more present you. Yes, it’s freighting, yes, it’s hard, but if you continue doing what it no longer works, it will get harder and more painful. Your true self demands change and it needs change to be ready, able and willing to welcome all you have ever desired but feared you’d never get.
It is time for change, accept it. It is only here to make you better.
Don’t be afraid of your fear, nor get lost in your anxiety. Know that anxiety and fear are best friends to your true self. They show you what needs to change and what no longer serves a purpose in your life… LISTEN!