The Journey

The hardest thing I have ever done is realizing my worth and learning to love someone from a distance. You see, I was conditioned to love people and stay loyal with all my might. In the process, I was never taught how to love and stay loyal to myself.

I thought being in a relationship meant doing everything in my power to make my partner happy and vise versa. I learned the hard way that doing this left me powerless. By me placing responsibility for my happiness on someone else, left me feeling dissatisfied, betrayed, confused and angry.

Being in this state for a while and needing to feel better, I relinquished the source of it all. In the process, I learned to love unconditionally. I know I will always love this person because by his side, I learned to love myself and recognize all the areas in me, I need to address and heal.

I learned to love unconditionally by learning to meet and accept others where they are in their own journey. I learned to decipher and identify the things that belong to me, that I must work on and heal, and let go of the things that are not for me to change. I learned to protect my mind, heart and soul by focusing on everything and everyone that aligns with my happiness. I no longer feel guilty for not spending time and energy on the things and people that contradict all that supports my well being.

it hasn’t been easy. I am and will continue to be work on progress. I still find myself giving myself permission to love from a distance everyone and everything that does not support and encourage my happiness. But, I can tell you today, that I am my best self and I will continue to get better because I enjoy feeling ease, loved, comfort, excitement, balanced, empowered and free.

Growth

When we experience sadness, anxiety and or other negative feeling, we tend to coexist in it, and in return negative feelings remain within us for longer periods than we would like them to.

The key to shorten their stay is to allow yourself to fully experience these feelings and identify what is making you feel this way. What happened? What were you thinking, right before these feelings took over?

You see, it’s essential that you not only experience negative feelings but also understand why you’re experiencing them. Being able to identify the why, will allow you to figure out the how to managing them. Sometimes we experience these feelings because we need to change something or do something different. Being aware that these feelings are a result of the need to some kind of change, for me, makes it easier to face and experience them.

Remember life is about experiencing, learning, evolving and moving on. This means that in order for us to learn something at a personal level, we must allow ourselves to experience it. Once we are in the experience, we learn what we like and or dislike about it, opening the door for our evolution. Personal evolution just means that you are aware of experiences you are willing to allow or push away from your life, because you know that they will cause you negative or positive feelings. Evolving also means you adopt new positive habits of behavior and thoughts. Behavior and thoughts that only lead you to your best self. A self that is balanced and confident.

My advice to you would be: Change demands experiencing, learning, evolving and moving on. Don’t deny yourself the beauty of it all, because at the end of it, your best self awaits.